Single and Celebrating
By Maureen Pollard,
Emotional Health Editor
Maureen Pollard, MSW, RSW is a registered social worker
with a private practice in Cobourg, Ontario.
February the 14th can be a tough day if you don’t have a romantic relationship. Stores (online & off) are filled with cards and treats, social feeds are flooded with V-Day posts and ads about love are everywhere. It can feel like having a partner to buy gifts for is the only thing that matters in the days before this time-honoured occasion. It can also feel like everyone is ecstatically happy in their relationships but you.
But being single has it's perks, and it can be both liberating and empowering. There’s no reason for single people to spend Valentine’s Day unhappy. If you’re single, here are some great strategies for celebrating yourself!
Remind Yourself of the Perks of Being Single
Yes, being single can suck sometimes. But remind yourself of some of the benefits of single life: e.g. more freedom and less responsibility, less heartache, more money, more time to focus on your own goals...! While you're at it, read a few empowering/inspiring quotes.
Plan a Movie Night
Make it virtual and get together with other single friends online, or just choose a line-up of films featuring your favourite celebrity crush and watch alone. Don’t forget your favourite snacks!
Turn off your social media notifications, or better yet, turn off those devices. Choose a book in your favourite genre and settle in somewhere cozy for an evening of reading.
Take a hot bath or shower. Give yourself a facial, or a manicure. Sip your favourite herbal tea or hot chocolate and listen to music that makes you feel calm and content.
Choose a new recipe or use a tried-and-true favourite and bake yourself a delicious treat.
Let Your Loved Ones Know You Care
Celebrate the great relationships you do have in your life. Send a heart felt text to the people in your life who make you feel good, who make you laugh and who are there when you need a friend.
Connect with a Grandparent or "Grandparent Figure" in your Life
There are many older people right now who are living alone and feeling isolated. Many aren't as comfortable with technology, which can increase that feeling of isolation. Valentine's Day is a great reason to pick up the phone and call a grandparent you love, or an older person who's alone that you care about. They'll be so glad you did, and so will you!
Send Love Into the World
Choose an act of kindness and do something nice for someone else. Maybe it’s a family member or a friend, or maybe your kindness helps a complete stranger. Either way, it feels good for both of you.
No matter what you choose, remember that you are loveable and worthy of healthy, unconditional love. Begin by loving yourself and planning a relaxing evening you’ll enjoy to celebrate this Valentine’s Day.